Sharmila Tagore was recently on her daughter-in-law, Kareena Kapoor Khan‘s radio show What Women Want. It was an enjoyable episode, as anticipated. After all, watching the famous saas–bahu pair chatting about a variety of things can be nothing short of entertaining.
An interesting topic raised during the conversation between the begums of Pataudi was the difference between a daughter and a daughter-in-law. Sharmila ji had a mature approach to the subject, which obviously comes from abundance of wisdom accompanied by experience.
Her articulate response is sure to win many hearts:
A daughter is someone you’ve grown up with, right? So you know her temperament, you know what makes her angry and how to deal with that person. You’re meeting your daughter-in-law when she is an adult already and you don’t quite know what her temperament is like, so it takes time to gel. The new girl, your daughter-in-law, is coming to your house so you need to welcome her and make her more comfortable.
She further said it’s the responsibility of the groom’s family to make the newly wed girl feel comfortable and well-settled.
If I say, “When my son was young, this is what he liked and this is his favourite dish”… All that showing off can be a bane. You should allow their relationship to grow more than try and take over.
Wow, that’s a pretty sound advice! Pretty sure all the new brides as well as brides-to-be, along with their new families will relate to it.