Wherever you live in the world, you’ll notice how tough the dating scene is everywhere. It isn’t easy to find a genuine person who you can actually connect with that won’t lead to a bad decision. Speaking of bad decisions, the one kind of relationship that can ruin your life is dating a gaslighter. For all those who don’t know who that is, a gaslighter is someone who manipulates their partner in such a way that they will question their own sanity. This is one of the most toxic relationships one can be in, and that’s why we’ve listed down some signs that’ll help you recognise if the person you’re with is gaslighting you. Scroll down for these signs.
1. You’re always second-guessing yourself
If the person you’re with is gaslighting you, you will always doubt yourself and your actions. They will make you feel like everything you do is stupid and wrong and that they’re always right. Not only that, they’ll also make you feel like they’re doing you a favour by helping you out by telling you the “right” thing.
2. You constantly feel lonely
You’re almost in a one-sided relationship and somehow, even when you’re with them there is a void and it feels like something is always missing.
3. You go back to them knowing it’s toxic
They mistreat you at every chance they get. And they manipulate you in such a way that you will go back to them even when things have ended.
4. You’ll still look for their approval
Like we mentioned before, they make you doubt yourself to such an extent, that you constantly look for their approval in everything. Because they make you believe that you’re always wrong.
5. They’re extremely critical of you
They belittle you every single time and they always speak to you in a condescending tone. Enough to criticise you every step of the way.
6. They always play the victim
If you guys fight (which could be often), they will play the victim whether they’re wrong or right. There’s no winning from them.
7. They blame you even when it’s their fault
When they play the victim, they blame you for every single thing in the fight. They’ll do anything to win the argument like dig up old fights, actions you probably did years ago and random petty points to prove themselves right.
If most of these signs are relatable, you should end things as soon as possible. Because this will not only keep you in limbo but also diminish your self-respect.
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