At Team MissMalini we firmly believe that mothers should be celebrated every day. They give us life and from that moment on, we’re lucky to have and experience a love that is so unconditional, it cannot be compared to any other. So, on the occasion of Mother’s Day this year, we have asked some of the mommy bloggers we know to write us a few thought pieces From Mommy’s Eyes. Mommy blogger, Shubhreet Kaur of RaisingKarma talks about the 5 things you shouldn’t ever tell a new mother-to-be.
Like most pregnant women, I didn’t like advice. Unless we specifically ask for it, don’t dish it. We have Google and doctors! So here are 5 things you must never say to your pregnant friend, daughter-in-law, niece, friend’s friend, cousin etc.
“You have no idea how difficult it is.”
Thanks! And how is telling a pregnant woman this with her big belly, aching back, swollen ankles, nausea and crazy hormones helping the situation anyway?!
“Labour is so painful, you’ll want to die.”
Really! That’s a shocker! I thought the baby would just pop out! (Rolling my eyes). Freaking her out about labour adds stress. Don’t overhype it and that’ll make it easier.
What she can and can’t do
The way most people reacted when I told them we were not calling our parents over to help when the baby arrived, you’d think I just announced I’m airing my labour live on TV! We wanted to do it everything ourselves and it was the best decision we made. If she wants to try something; encourage her, not discourage.
“Make sure you have a natural birth.”
Okay! I’ll just snap my fingers, tap my toes and little birdies will come and deliver my child naturally. I had a natural delivery but the amount of judgement some of my friends received for a C-section was heartbreaking. Labour can’t be predicted. There is no ‘making sure’ of anything. When push comes to shove and the doctor takes a call; who are we to argue!
“Breastmilk is the best!”
Take it from a breastfeeding mom, the pressure on mothers to
breastfeed
is getting a bit much. Stress is anyhow a leading cause of low production and perpetually discussing it or dropping hints only adds to it – the stress, not the production! It creates guilt if she can’t or chooses not to do it. It does not make her a bad mother and her formula fed baby will still grow up well.
Motherhood is the toughest job on the planet people and every mother does her best. Let’s shell out only love & respect for their efforts!