Yes, I’m another Gossip Girl fan from Team MissMalini, and while I share my Blair Waldorf love with Rashmi Daryanani (headbands et al), my personal favourite aspect of this show was the Blair-Serena equation that was addictive right from the pilot episode to the finale. I can safely say I totally loved their friendship more than any other romantic relationship in the show.
While at some points I felt like this is the kind of friendship one should have, there were moments where they calling themselves best friends amazed me. So here are things you can learn from Blair Waldorf and Serena van der Woodsen’s sweet and sour friendship.
1. Stay Away From Each Other’s Men (The extremely obvious one)
It all began when Serena made the mistake of sleeping with Blair’s childhood love, Nate Archibald, and it never stopped. Blair also eventually had an affair with the love of Serena’s life, i.e., Dan Humphrey, which blew up and how. It is a given that current boyfriend or an ex, meddling with your best friend’s flame can cause serious damage!
2. Don’t Judge, Bestie!
You can’t blame B for judging what S did with Nate, but B took it a step ahead by never letting S get over her past with boys and drugs. She made sure to keep bringing it up at Yale and other places. Sometimes, your best friend does something she may not be very proud of herself, and that is where you have to tell her it is okay to make mistakes and that doesn’t mean you love her any less. You cannot use her flaws against her in an argument. It’s your duty to be a part of the non-judging breakfast club for your best friend!
3. Be the one to reconcile. It’s a good feeling.
When S came back from boarding school and saw how things had changed, she fought her way to patch up. When B threw S out of her house at the end of season 5, she even went to get her back when they didn’t hear from her all summer. There is never a wrong time to be the first one to take a step towards patching up with your best friend. If Queen B can keep her ego aside, so can you.
4. Revenge is not the answer.
So B tells Serena’s new boyfriend Dan Humphrey about what she did with Nate, or S tries to take Dan back by seducing him. S applies to Yale and B discloses her past to ruin her reputation. Every time your best friend makes a mistake, you get back at her and then she gets back at you and it goes on. Revenge is not the way to solve issues – voicing how you feel and dealing with it is the thing to do.
5. Reassurance. We All Need It.
B may be Queen B for the world, but for S, she is a true best friend. When S came to her with what was possibly a nightmare for anyone, Blair was there. When Blair wanted to run away, Serena made her stay back. It is always good to know your best friend is by your side and sometimes, saying that out loud makes a lot of difference.
6. Share Your Lives.
B always felt S is trying to steal her thunder. But Blair also realized that things are always brighter with Serena around, case in point the Paris trip and high school graduation. Sharing your life with your best friend doubles your happiness and there is a line between a little jealousy and complete envy. A little jealousy is fine as far as you are happy for your best friend, right?
7. Stick Up For Each Other, No Matter What.
When Georgina was blackmailing Serena with the video tape, Blair took full control and made sure Georgina left town. S drops all her plans when B needs her and when Georgina tried to mess with Blair, she clearly said,” If you keep pushing Blair, she will push back and when she does, I will be right behind her.” Best friendship is all about having each other’s back, it makes life better. Always.
What did you learn from B and S? Share with me!