As humans, we form and crave romantic relationships, the support and love of our partner help us become a better version of ourselves and enlighten our lives. After a while, all relationships are gripped with monotonicity and boredom. It would be untrue to put the blame on any of the partners or assume it’s because of a lack of love that the partners have for one another. Boredom occurs because our focus and priorities shift towards the other aspects of our lives. Naturally, we feel the absence of spark and spontaneity in our relationships and wish to revive them.
If you’ve been feeling the same way about your relationship and want to feel the magic again, here are 7 of Devina Kaur‘s top tips you can apply to achieve spontaneity in your relationship. Devina is an inspirational speaker, author, radio host, and the founder of the Sexy Brilliant Non-Profit Foundation.
1. Plan Out The Ideal Date For You & Your Partner
We all have envisioned and planned our perfect dates in our minds. The next time you sit down with your partner to have a chat, ask them about their idea of a perfect date and try to remember as many details as you can. Their ideas combined with some of your thoughts will add the ideal spark to planning your date night and have a positive impact on your relationship. The planning and execution of your perfect date will also make your partner appreciate your efforts. They will feel important and loved.
2. Reveal Your Sexual Spirit
With our daily rituals, sexual intimacy also becomes more of a routine than a thing we cherish and enjoy. Break your old routine and try out new and different ideas of sexual intimacy with your partner. You can try new positions or engage with sex toys. Don’t let an afternoon go to waste, instead turn it into intimate and playful noon of wanting and exploring. You can try out role-playing as well; introduce your alter egos, create a backstory for yourselves and involve yourself in a moment of pure bliss and pleasure. Consent is sexy.
3. Relive Your Moments
Communication is the key to every healthy relationship. Our past is filled with bundles of joy and memories that we cherish. Over a quiet evening, you can start a conversation about the events from your past that you both are fond of, and talk about the good moments and how you still cherish them. Do not forget to leave out the bad moments because they became the foundational blocks of support that you have for each other.
4. Take A Break
Holidays are a way to relax and reset your body system and add a breath of refreshment to your relationship. In our fast-paced lives, we tend to make plans for a vacation and never act on them. Uprooting yourself from the usual location and going out on a road trip or a vacation will unveil a new connection that was buried underneath your normal self.
5. We All Need More Attention & Love
Oftentimes, it is important to show adoration and love away from the bedroom. You can achieve that by showing short intimate gestures in public, like holding hands at a party or while watching a movie, planting a kiss on each other’s cheeks and the forehead. Even after years of being in the relationship, when you give more attention and love to your partner and have respect for your relationship, a simple brush of hands has the potential to bring butterflies to your stomach and put a smile on your face.
6. Switch Up Your Roles In The Household
There are many acts of service that you can show towards your partner. One of which is switching up the roles that you have assigned each other. The gesture doesn’t have to be huge but simple and kind ones will work the magic. You can start by making breakfast in bed or baking their favourite dessert at home. If they are the ones who usually do the dishes or wash the clothes, you can give them a day off and share the work instead.
7. Let’s Be Saucy
We all have a naughty and playful side of ourselves that gets buried in the usual and tight schedule of our lives but it is always advisable to release that version and have a fun night with your partner. You can send some saucy text messages to your partner about your plans for them in the bedroom or leave notes at different parts of the house that they frequently visit. You can ask your partner to pick up a sexy pair of lingerie for you or open up a bottle of time. The goal is to be intimate in unusual ways.
These are the seven ideas that you can engage in to add new layers of intimacy and spontaneity to your relationship. Always remember to talk openly and listen carefully when your partner and you are in conversation. These tips will unveil the love you two share and you’ll feel a rush of excitement in your relationship as you used to feel before.
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